Premature ejaculation affects many men worldwide, it is the most common sexual problem among those under 40 years of age. It is important to understand the physical and mental causes behind the problem, but until this happens, fortunately, many techniques will help to delay or eliminate premature ejaculation.
Take a deep breath!
Deep breathing is a form of meditation that often helps control sexual desire and tension leading to premature ejaculation. Superficial, rapid breathing speeds up the pulse, which can cause premature erections and ejaculation.
Try to inhale the air well for 5 seconds, then hold it in for 3 seconds and only then blow it out slowly, again for 5 seconds. If you can continue this rhythmic breathing for 5 minutes, you can take great advantage of it in the bedroom too! In addition, trying to breathe with your partner, paying attention to each other, greatly enhances intimacy.
Masturbate more often!
There are practical reasons for this advice: although men have significant amounts of sperm, they are not infinite. The more times you masturbate, the next time you can delay ejaculation longer.
Try interrupted masturbation! The point of this is that when you feel an orgasm approaching, it stops and then, after a short rest, continues to satisfy and stop, gradually getting closer and closer to orgasm, until you can no longer stop. Try pushing this out for 15 minutes, but if you feel your testicles or penis hurt, don’t stop yourself anymore. If you do this exercise regularly, you can experience where the point from which there is “no going back” is. If you feel you are already a master of technique, you can also try it in the bedroom.
Applying pressure to the bottom of the penis – to the same point that helps to delay orgasm during intermittent masturbation – can slightly reduce the amount of erection, thus delaying ejaculation. Once you know exactly what this point is, you can even ask your partner to help you practice this technique.
The relatively easy and discreet Kegel exercise is not only beneficial for women. There is no better way to train pelvic floor muscles and strengthen the pubococcygeus muscle (PC muscle). The PC muscle is located between the pubic bone and the coccyx and helps control urine and ejaculation, respectively.
The easiest way to train this muscle is to try to stop urine leaking on the toilet. To do this, you need to use the PC muscle. During Kegel exercise, this muscle should be stretched for approx. 10 seconds, then relax. Perform at least three sequences of exercises in a row, with 10-second breaks between them. You can do the exercise anywhere, anytime, either while driving or in front of the TV. The exercise strengthens the PC muscle so you can delay ejaculation by tightening it near orgasm.
Try new sex poses!
Real sex is more than a traditional source of physical pleasure. Try new sex poses or apply tantric techniques during intimate togetherness! You may even find that you last longer in certain poses, ejaculate later. Generally, when the woman is on top, premature ejaculation can be delayed while the missionary pose is avoided.
If you feel close to orgasm, stop the stimulation (e.g., pull out your penis for a short time), stretch your PC muscle, and take a deep breath! Repeat this until the ejaculation compulsion is gone.
A condom reduces the sensitivity of the penis, so stimulation is less of a problem. Avoid condoms with warm lubricants that provide a warm atmosphere – the more stimulation, the greater the risk of premature ejaculation.
The use of a benzocaine condom, which can delay ejaculation by up to 5 minutes, is highly recommended. These condoms are treated with a mild anesthetic, benzocaine, which helps prevent premature ejaculation by reducing sexual stimulation. Don’t worry, you’ll still enjoy being together. If in doubt, try masturbating first to see the benefits of using it.
If you are allergic to latex, look for a condom based on polyurethane or polyisoprene.
Talk to your partner!
Communication is the basis of any relationship, and when it comes to sex, it is also important. Talk to your partner about premature ejaculation. Tell her if you feel close to ejaculation and interrupt the act for a short time. This can be a great time to pamper your partner orally or manually. If you feel ready again, they can continue making love.
Don’t have unrealistic expectations!
Focus on the joy! Premature ejaculation has no definition given in minutes or seconds. When stressed, it is not only psychologically unhealthy, but can even trigger premature ejaculation. Talk openly and honestly with your partner about your problem and possible alternatives. Remember, sex should be joyful and not stressful.